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One of the hardest things we do is say no. But saying yes too much will leave you burned out and frustrated.
It’s not always easy to say no. But you can’t say yes to everything. So how do you know when it’s time to say no? It helps to look at your life in terms of what you are saying yes to and what you are saying no to. Ask yourself: Is what I’m saying yes to serving my purpose? If not, I need to make some changes.If you want to become more assertive, you need to learn how to say no.
And when you learn how to say no, you’ll be much more comfortable dealing with difficult situations in your life. You’ll also become much less anxious and nervous. Because once you start saying no, you’ll realize that you are not the only one who can do things, and it’s ok if someone else does it instead. This will allow you to have much more fun in your life, and it will also allow you to feel more relaxed and comfortable about yourself. As a result, you’ll be able to enjoy yourself more.
When I talk with people about the issue of saying no and how they have handled it, most of them feel like they’re doing something wrong.In today’s lesson, we’ll go over eight techniques that will help you find ways to say no to work without being a jerk.
1. Make an agreement with yourself.
2. Say “no” while remaining polite.
3. Say “No” to Meetings
4. Say “No” to Free Stuff
5. Say “No” to Volunteering
6. Say “No” to Pressures from Others
7. Say “No” to Negativity
8. State the reasons why you’re saying no
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Make an agreement with yourself.
Most people don’t really have any agreement with themselves about who they want to become. So you need to come up with your own rules. Here’s how: Start with a sentence that defines you (“I am a [insert profession]”). Next, add a verb. For example, if you are a doctor, you could say, “I am a healer”. Then, add some adjectives. Like, “I am kind, funny, empathetic, patient, honest, etc.”. And finally, make a conclusion by describing how you want to be perceived. For example, “I am known for [insert quality/accomplishment].”
The next step is to agree with yourself. The goal is to stop talking about yourself as a victim and start talking about yourself as the solution. You can either put words into your own mouth or listen to someone else’s opinion, but it all comes back to you. This is why you’re reading this blog post: you wanted to hear what I had to say, and I want to help you. Now you know.
If you’ve been using all your willpower power trying to control your impulses to eat the sweets in front of you (or the box of doughnuts or chips that show up in the office), maybe you’ll want to use that willpower power on yourself. A little self-control can go a long way. You can even use this technique for other behaviors that are hard for you. Imagine yourself in the future, looking back on your life. What will you regret if you don’t change your behavior? Can you picture yourself doing something you’d hate later on in life?
Say “no” while remaining polite.
One of the most difficult things for salespeople to do is say “no.” And if they do say no, they may feel as though they’ve done something wrong. A salesperson must maintain a sense of humility, and not feel as though he or she is being rude by refusing to sell. While salespeople may be tempted to use the “I’m busy” excuse to get out of doing a deal, there are ways to turn the tables on them and turn them into customers.
The second tip on this list is to say “no” while remaining polite. For example, a potential client or friend may offer to pay you for a particular service. If you say “yes” to a request for help without considering whether you can accept the money, the offer may not seem like a genuine request. Similarly, if you give someone your number to sell you something (or to ask for a job), they may start selling you stuff before you realize that you’re not interested. Saying “no” will allow you to avoid the problem altogether.
In an attempt to make the most of their time, some people say yes to almost anything. As an entrepreneur, there’s a lot of temptation to say yes to every request, and you may need to push back more often than you’d like to, particularly if you are still developing a reputation in your niche. However, pushing back and saying no while maintaining respect for the other person are both necessary to making sure your time is being used most efficiently. Don’t give up your power without having an end goal in mind.
Say “No” to Meetings
Meetings are time-consuming, distracting, and generally not worth the time spent. Don’t have meetings where you’re supposed to take notes—have the meeting in your head. If you want to have a real conversation, then schedule time to speak on the phone or meet face-to-face.
Sometimes you’ll run into a meeting where you think it is going to be a waste of time. You can tell if that’s going to be true just by listening to the tone of voice of the person leading the meeting. Is he or she speaking in an open and curious way, or are they speaking with a closed mind? If the meeting seems like it could be a waste of time, say, “I’m not sure I need to be here,” or “I’m really excited about [insert value proposition].” If they are not willing to take that chance, then say “no” politely and walk away.
One of the biggest mistakes I see companies make is scheduling too many meetings. Meeting after meeting can easily make a company seem unprofessional, and the people who manage the day-to-day operations may even begin to feel that way. Scheduling more than two or three meetings per week can cause problems. The result is that the company appears disorganized and unfocused.
Say “No” to Free Stuff
When people see free, they start thinking about how much they’ll like it and how much they might actually need it. Instead, consider giving a gift card or discount for purchases. This way, you’re not only showing your appreciation for your customers, but you’re also letting them choose what they want to spend their money on.
I’m not talking about asking for discounts. There’s nothing wrong with asking for discounts. Discounts are always acceptable. But you shouldn’t offer a discount if you don’t have a need to. For example, I had a client offer me a free trial. The reason they offered was because they wanted to see whether their product was something they could sell. They didn’t offer me a discount because they already knew they weren’t going to sell their product.
A freebie is never a good deal. Why? Because free is never free. There are always hidden costs behind freebies. Think about it, there’s always a catch. So when you see an offer for a free sample of something, consider if you can afford to say no. Think about your budget and the value of the offer. If it doesn’t really add anything to your life, you don’t need it. If you do decide to take a freebie, be sure to evaluate if it’s worth the cost of the freebie. Remember, every dollar you spend is a dollar you’re not spending on something else.
Say “No” to Volunteering
When I started working for a nonprofit, I was volunteering for hours and hours each week. But after some time, my volunteer hours were consuming too much of my time and energy. I needed to get a better balance between the two. So in sometime I needed to stop volunteering because I wanted to focus on my own business. They didn’t take kindly to me saying no to their request. They offered to pay me to volunteer on their behalf. They knew that if I said yes to the offer, they could continue using my services. And if I said no, I could keep volunteering. But I didn’t want to take advantage of my colleagues, so I said no.
For those of you who want to help, but don’t have any free time to volunteer, consider asking your employer if you can work for free. “This is a win-win for both sides because you’ll get valuable work experience and you’ll also be helping someone else at the same time,” says Roloff. “And if you do get hired, you may have already had a foot in the door.” Another option: “Ask if you can work on something that’s relevant to your future career goals, such as a project that relates to your major or a side business that you can start on your own time and use as a portfolio piece,” says Roloff.
One of the most difficult aspects of entrepreneurship is having the self-discipline to say no to opportunities that might benefit your business, but not necessarily make you a better entrepreneur. We all feel bad about it, but the truth is that no matter how good something sounds, if it doesn’t directly benefit the business, we should say no. And if it can wait, we should let it. It’s hard, I know, but when it comes to working with friends, family, and even potential clients, you need to protect yourself and your business.
Say “No” to Pressures from Others
Don’t let others define what you should be doing. If you want to get better at something, it’s all too easy to let the people around you tell you what you should be doing. But you don’t want to get so hooked on what they want that you stop being true to yourself. Instead, figure out who you want to be and what you really want to do. Then you can say yes or no to the opportunities that come up. You’ll find that the people around you start to respect you more.
When I first started freelancing, I spent a lot of time worrying about what other people thought of me. I worried about how my peers would judge me if I decided to start my own business. I worried about how others would see me if I was a freelancer. And there were a few times when I couldn’t say no to someone’s request.
If you feel that you’re being pressured by someone to act a certain way that is contrary to your values, you might want to say no to that person. And if they continue to pressure you, you should let them know that you’ll have to decline the offer. This is especially true if you feel that you don’t have enough time or energy to devote to the project, because that is a clear sign that you are being pressured into something that isn’t going to be beneficial to you.
Pressure is an uncomfortable feeling. We all know this. The key to building a healthy relationship with pressure is to be aware of it and make sure that you respond in ways that take care of yourself. This includes taking breaks, meditating, doing yoga, eating well, sleeping well, etc. Pressure will be there for a while, but you can choose how you respond to it. By practicing good self-care, you’re doing yourself a huge favor.
Say “No” to Negativity
It is possible to feel negative emotions even when you’re not experiencing them. We can’t help but feel some of the negative emotions our parents, teachers and peers have instilled in us. But we can work to feel those emotions and stop letting them control us. If you feel a negative emotion, say “no” and don’t act on it. If the feeling becomes intense enough, you’ll know. Then, you can decide if you need to change your behavior, or you can just let yourself feel the way you do and act accordingly.
There is a lot of talk today about being positive. I personally don’t really care for it. I’m not sure why, but I think it’s because I feel negativity is often more authentic than positivity. If you’re honest with yourself, how often do you say “yes” when you mean “no”? If you’re honest with yourself, how many times do you actually tell someone else what you really want to say to them? I feel there’s a certain integrity to saying “no” that seems to resonate more. When you say “yes” to things you don’t really want to do or people you don’
We often put ourselves in positions where we can’t say no to others. We feel we owe them something. We feel like we owe it to ourselves to do certain things. We feel guilty when we decline. And then, we get resentful when we feel taken advantage of or ignored. The point is: Saying no is part of the social fabric of our lives, but it doesn’t have to be an excuse to get into trouble. When you say no, you are actually saying yes to yourself. You’re saying no to doing something that’s less than optimal for you, but you’re still being helpful and productive.
The third psychology principle we’ll explore in this blog post is the most subtle: Don’t talk about what people don’t want to hear. Research shows that when we talk about things we want to avoid, our brains naturally react by tuning out the negativity. Instead, talk about the positive side of the situation. This will make us more receptive to the good news.
We all know that saying yes to everything will result in an overwhelming amount of stress and overwhelm. To overcome this, a good thing to do is to say no to things that aren’t necessary. Say no to projects that don’t bring value to the organization. This can be easier said than done, but it’s something everyone needs to take on as part of their job as an entrepreneur.
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State the reasons why you’re saying no
It’s important to understand that the person who wants to close you down may not be motivated by financial reasons. They might be trying to protect themselves from losing money. Or they may feel that they don’t have time to sell to you. So, you’ll need to figure out what is motivating them.
When you’re in the sales process, the customer’s decision to buy from you hinges on what you say and how you say it. But sometimes, your customers will try to persuade you to say yes, even though you’re not interested in selling to them. These requests can be a bit difficult to manage, but if you understand how to deal with them effectively, you can save yourself a lot of trouble. Here are three common situations that cause people to try to persuade you to say yes when you’re not interested in selling to them:
While there are countless reasons why you may be turning down an opportunity, it’s very easy to fall into a trap when you give yourself too many reasons to explain why. You don’t want to come off as insincere, but on the flip side, you want to be clear and concise with your rejection letter. Here’s what you should say: Thank you for thinking of me, but due to my schedule and priorities, I’m unable to accept your invitation at this time. I’m sorry for any inconvenience.
Don’t say no just because you don’t like something. People don’t have the time to shop. They have lives. There are only 24 hours in a day. So, if you’re not willing to spend 30 minutes to 1 hour every day (or more) shopping online, there’s simply no way you can offer your customers a great deal. Be realistic and honest about your time and energy limitations. Say it like it is and people will respect you for it.
1. Never be afraid to say no to something you don’t want to do.
2. Say yes to things you really want to do if they align with your values.
3. If you don’t say no, it means you’re saying yes.
4. Say yes to opportunities that make you feel powerful and confident.
In conclusion, I am here to tell you that it’s ok to say ‘No’. It’s ok to set boundaries and limits. It’s ok to say ‘No’ when someone else needs your time and attention more than you do. It’s ok to say ‘No’ when you aren’t interested in an opportunity, but you still want to be professional. It’s ok to decline when you know you can’t provide the resources or time required.
It’s ok to say ‘No’, because there are so many people out there who would kill for the position that you hold.In conclusion, saying “no” isn’t hard, it’s just different from how we’ve been trained. Most people feel more comfortable saying “yes” than “no” because we’re so used to it. The difference is, when we say “no” it shows respect and makes us vulnerable. It’s much harder to say “no” and maintain integrity. So, the key to saying “no” effectively is to have a good reason and make sure it’s something you’re willing to fight for.
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